“A memory is what is left when something happens and doesn’t completely unhappen.”

Edward de Bono, psychologist and writer

One of the main benefits NLP has to offer is to help change habitual negative responses.

Before I learnt NLP I knew that I had some ‘choice’ on how I responded. However, when I was tired and when I received a certain ‘look’ or tone of voice, I would find my state had changed automatically and I was upset. After a while I would calm down and feel foolish for yet again entering into this negative state.

What I learnt from NLP is that often our responses are unconscious, so the idea we can completely control our feelings is, for most of humanity, an illusion. I also learnt that these responses ...

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