HOW YOU CAN TALK TO ANYONE IN EVERY SITUATION
A charity event – finding out as much as you can about the
charity and the way it is organised.
A ball – dancing with at least one person that you do not know
A conference – making five new connections and speaking to
at least one of the speakers whose subjects most interest you.
A networking event – deciding, once you have seen the
attendance list, exactly who you want to connect with.
An external training course – learning and being on first-
name terms with three to five of the other attendees by
lunchtime on the first day.
And you don’t need to stretch yourself too far. Give yourself
something to aim for and that in itself will allow you to focus
on other people rather than on yourself and any uncertainty or
nervousness that you used to feel.
The secret to being interesting
Surprisingly, the people who are regarded as the most inter-
esting and who get invited back tend to be those who are
interested in others, not those who go on and on about them-
selves. You’ll have heard of, and probably even met, people who
could ‘bore for Britain’. Well, you never want to be seen as one
of those, do you?
So get curious about people, about their backgrounds, about
their lives, about their loves. There’s nothing that makes people
feel more flattered and want to spend more time with you. Have
you ever had that experience, where you’ve been made to feel
like the most fascinating person in the room? How did it make
We were talking a little while ago to a friend of ours, Julie, who,
the evening before, had been to a party with her boyfriend, David.
‘What was it like?’ we asked.
‘Oh, great for David!’ was her slightly acerbic response.