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I’m the Boss of Me: A Guide to Owning Your Career

by Jeanne Beliveau-Dunn

June 2016

Beginner

384 pages

English

Pearson

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A Challenged BeginningBuilding Resilience and StrengthEmpower YourselfHow Successful People Create Their SuccessContrast Shows You What You WantContrast Doesn’t Need to Be Big to Work for YouPush toward Change or Shrink from It, It’s Your ChoiceChoose Love When Fear CallsTwo Operating Models: Love and FearStay Out of the Bubble, Stay Off AutopilotA Bucket List for SuccessBuild the Self-Empowered Road to SuccessHappiness FirstGetting Down to Work
Give Up the Idea That the Way You Are Now Is the Way You Will Always BePractice Self-Control Because It Doesn’t Come NaturallyUse Self-Talk Plus Self-Control to Choose Your Operating ModelUsing Emotional Intelligence Helps You Connect with Yourself and OthersDon’t Check Your Feelings at the DoorBuild Self-Awareness So You Can See Where You’re GoingAvoid Artificial Limits So You Don’t Get LostCourage and Resilience Will Support You When Things Get ToughFocus and DisciplineUsing Discipline to Make ProgressGetting Down to Work

Let Curiosity Lead YouDiscovering Your WorkIf You Don’t Know, Experiment!Exposure Is the KeyHow Parents Can Help Their Kids and Students Can Help ThemselvesUnderstanding the Work EnvironmentOutside: The World of Work and Where It Is HeadedInside: Your Strengths and InterestsFinding Your StrengthsThere Are a Few Archetypal JobsThe Need for Both Soft Skills and Technology SkillsThe Future Is Uncertain, But You Don’t Need to BeCreating a Blue Ocean Career StrategyWhat’s Next?
Vision, Strategy, ExecutionVisionStrategyExecutionMap Your Career to Make the Most of Your DesiresHow Do You Keep Momentum in a Career?Build Next-Generation SkillsDriving Awareness and Your Personal Brand
Use Contrast to Drive LearningThe Learner’s MindsetLearner’s Mindset and Growth MindsetBe a Learner to Stay Engaged in Your WorkMany Ways to Learn and WorkHow You Hold Yourself BackBlind Spots: Overconfident and Under SightedBlind Spots: Under Confident and Over SightedBlind Spots: Ego NurturerLearning as a Core SkillLove, Emotional Intelligence, and Mindsets
Communicating with Others About Your Vision – Sharing Your VSEDeveloping a Personal Brand StatementValue Proposition and Making the MatchGathering Information and Writing Your Personal Brand StatementSocializing with Your VSEWorking Through the Fear and Enjoying the ProcessPurposeful NetworkingSpheres of InfluenceInvest in Your RelationshipsBuilding Your BenchThe Close-In SphereMentorsThe Advisor SphereThe Alliance Sphere
Attitude and AltruismLiving with IntentionTame Your Mind, Feed Your HeartHow Choosing Love Over Fear Supports Altruism and Propels You to the Next LevelTaking Flight with Outside-In, Inside-Out ThinkingThe Inside-Out, Outside-In Career ProcessHow to Create Your Dream Job
It’s Not About YouObstaclesThe Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Mental HabitsProblem Fighter or Problem SolverDisengaged or Just in the Wrong Job?Being Miserable in Your JobSelf-Destructive SpiralsFear, Uncertainty, and DoubtExternal Limitations: Mailroom SyndromeFeeling TrappedWorking with Intention
Planning for BalanceA Case in PointHow Planning for Balance Works on the Personal SideTo Plan or Not to PlanBlending Your Life and Experiences: An Older LifestyleSaying No Means Not Having to Say You’re SorryBeyond Saying NoSaying Yes or No to New Roles and Stretch Goals: Know YourselfBalance Requires TrustContrast and Stress Are the Teachers, Balance Is the Lesson
Self-Leadership When Things Don’t Go Your Way-Isms: Sexism, Racism, Ethnocentrism, and MoreBegin with UnderstandingThe Need to Bridge DifferencesSelf-Fulfilling PropheciesHandling Gender BiasHandling the Cultural Bias Toward ExtraversionWhat Do You Do When Things Go Wrong or You Can’t Influence Someone?The Benefits of a Third-Party PerspectiveWorking with Differences in Thinking StylesWorking Around Subtleties in the WorkplaceBuild Your BenchDo Your Homework and Share ItVolunteering: How Can I Help You?Working Around CronyismBeing Open About What You Want, What You Can Deliver, How You Want to Grow, and BoundariesCreating Inspired Success for Yourself and Others
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7. Attitude, Altruism, and Altitude

It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.

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