In Your Power

CHAPTER 13People: From Alone to Amplified

“I love, but I am not entirely sure how to be loved: how to be seen and known for the utterly flawed woman I am. It demands acknowledging that I am not perfect, but perhaps I deserve affection anyway.”

—Roxane Gay, New York Times Best‐selling Author of Bad Feminist

“I'm not the only one. That is such a relief.” I hear this from numerous clients in our first conversation. Knowing others have been up against the same treatment and were confused or near the end of their rope helps us see it's not just about us.

You want reliable strategies you can use on your own to get back in your power to make the idea of home within yourself. But other people can play an important supplemental role in bringing you back there and helping you stay there. Some moments we are so disconnected from our inner resources that we need scaffolding from outside of us to bring us back to ourselves. Once you have a foundation of connection to yourself, then others’ support, wisdom, and love is the delicious cherry on top of your self‐empowerment sundae.

In the portal of People you will learn ways that people can help you reconnect to yourself by reminding you of aspects of yourself you haven't given yourself credit for and by creating an upward spiral taking one another higher.

Humans are deeply social animals, wired to seek a sense of belonging and to live in communities with common goals. Therefore, people can be both the source and solution to our power problems. ...