CHAPTER 9

ENGAGING MINDSET

Our attitude about an upcoming event significantly impacts our experience of it. Have you ever had a significant other drag you to a social gathering with the promise of having a good time when you absolutely know that you will hate it? How often did you end up being surprised by how much you enjoyed yourself? Probably not often. If we say that we are going to be miserable, then we are going to be miserable, even, sadly, if only to prove the other person wrong. When we believe something will go a certain way, then we act in ways that fulfill that prophecy. Similarly, how well a difficult conversation goes is largely driven by the mindset we have going into it. This chapter provides advice on how to maintain an open ...

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