Chapter 7
Assertiveness
Introduction
It can be galling to be told when recounting a story of someone's impolite behaviour towards you, and how you got upset about it, ‘Oh stand up for yourself. Be assertive, not a crybaby.’ You may experience a triple dose of resentment: towards the person who was impolite; towards your friend for being unsympathetic; and towards yourself for acting passively and reluctantly acknowledging that your friend's comments had ‘the sting of truth’. I (MN) remember a client complaining to me that she was always being told to stand up for herself but no one actually explained how to do it: ‘Is it supposed to come to me in a vision? Others said that the worm will finally turn one day and I had to go and look that ...
Get Life Coaching, 2nd Edition now with the O’Reilly learning platform.
O’Reilly members experience books, live events, courses curated by job role, and more from O’Reilly and nearly 200 top publishers.
