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M. LoppManaging Humanshttps://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4842-7116-2_16

16. You’re Not Listening

Look them straight in the eye and never look at the clock
Michael Lopp1  
(1)
Los Gatos, CA, USA
 

I don’t want to write this chapter. I believe there is no way to provide advice about listening without typing the word feel.. a lot.. But I’m going to write this chapter because there is a good chance that your definition of listening is incomplete, and what I consider to be obvious and simple ways to listen are not obvious at all.

The problem starts with the word: listen. Of course you know how to listen. You sit there and let the words into your head. Perhaps your definition is more refined. Maybe your definition of listening involves hearing ...

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