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How to Stop Ruminating
By Alice Boyes
Do you ever find yourself endlessly mentally replaying situations in which you wish you’d performed differently? You wish you hadn’t said something. You wish you’d volunteered for a project that’s now winning accolades. You wish you’d spoken up. You wish you hadn’t dropped the ball with a potential client.
Overthinking in this way is called rumination. While we worry about what might occur in the future, we ruminate about events that have already happened. A ruminative reaction to an event often triggers memories of similar situations from the past and an unproductive focus on the gap between the real and ideal self. Prompted by this one event, you begin to chastise yourself for not being more of something ...
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