Tanya, recently married and in her late thirties, came to me with a familiar problem. She had gained some weight after her marriage (weight she’d dropped for the wedding) and wanted to “get in shape.” But despite a number of attempts, she couldn’t seem to stick with an exercise program. She told me it was a lifelong issue.
We’d just started to talk about her Meaning for exercise, and she’d jumped on the idea of chore. “That’s it exactly,” she agreed. Then she abruptly changed the subject and began complaining about how much it irritated her when her husband went running—especially when he left the house looking positively gleeful about what he was about to do. “He loves it,” she said, shaking her head ...