5Mindfulness and Curiosity Make a Comeback

There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.

—WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE

A number of years ago, I was talking to a friend of mine about a relationship that was creating a great deal of stress for me. Emails from this person sent my heart rate through the roof and conversations with this person were worse. I could feel a lump in my throat and my palms would get sweaty. My sympathetic nervous system would kick in automatically when we would engage in a conversation via email, text, phone, or in person. I was in fight or flight mode immediately.

My goal in the conversation with my friend was to get some advice on how to respond to several emails from “adversary.” I read through each email aloud, ...

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