10Extend Beyond Yourself

Don’t aim at success — the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.87

Andrea Jaeger was the youngest seeded player in Wimbledon history in 1980. At only fifteen years old, she was also the youngest U.S. Open semifinalist that same year. Described as a “pigtailed, teenage wunderkind,” Andrea was positioned for continued athletic success and fame. Yet ...

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