By embracing the inescapable, I lost my fear of it. I'll tell you a secret about fear. With fear, it's all or nothing, like any bullying tyrant, it rules your life with a stupid blinding omnipotence, or else you overthrow it, and its power vanishes in a puff of smoke.... I stopped being afraid because, if my time on earth was limited, I didn't have seconds to spare for funk.

 --Salman Rushdie

How do you respond when your efforts to speak or listen result in intense emotional outbursts instead of calm and reasoned conversation? What options are available to you when you get caught up in negative emotions during a conflict and your efforts to communicate disintegrate or slip out of your control?

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