The days and months leading to the divorce were filled with trauma and emotions. These were extremely tough times for both Fran and me. We sought marriage counseling to help sort out our feelings and to determine whether there was any chance of saving the marriage. We ultimately concluded there was none and moved forward with the divorce proceedings.

To our credit, we handled the necessary mechanics of the divorce in a relatively calm and mature way. One evening just before Christmas and only a month after I had moved out, we sat down in front of the fireplace and scratched out on three sheets of paper an outline reflecting how we would handle the property settlement, support, and custody issues. It was a reflective and loving moment ...

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