I had lunch with a dear friend the other day. Although I enjoyed the company and the food, I left feeling a little lower in energy.
When I thought about it, I realized my friend was brilliant at dismissing every book, concept, guru, self-help method, or healing approach he had read or heard about.
He was not directly negative or purposely critical. He sincerely wanted something that would work in his life. But he was unconsciously dismissing everything that came his way.
At one point I told him about a spiritual teacher I had studied with over two decades ago. I told him that people said, "Your teacher was obviously enlightened. He radiated it."
My friend cut in saying, "I'm sure there are people who saw that guru and didn't think he was any smarter than a paper bag."
Well, my friend is right.
But my friend is also unhappy.
I think there's a lesson here. When we dismiss people and ideas because the entire world doesn't agree with them, we get to be right. But we also get to stay empty inside. By dismissing what could work, we dismiss our own growth. We dismiss what's possible.
It doesn't matter if the book you read and love is loved by anyone else. It doesn't matter if the teacher you admire is admired by anyone else. It doesn't matter if the healing method that worked for you doesn't work for everyone else.
What matters is you. Your happiness. Your health. Your healing. Your well-being.
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