Chapter 8What If the Naysayers Are Right?

The most debilitating aspect of the impostor syndrome is the way in which it drives us to pursue constantly external validation while fully believing that we don’t actually deserve it. To find relief from this terrible burden, it is essential that you learn to use external validation to build your ability to validate yourself.

Developing a realistic sense of your own strengths and limitations is a critical step in confronting your fears about being a fake and the first step in learning to validate yourself. This is much easier to do if you don’t go it alone. The next time someone compliments you on something you have done well, see if you can put aside your habitual response and allow the information ...

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