Chapter 15. Change Your Frame to See People

We are what we believe we are.

—Benjamin N. Cardozo

Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.


WHEN I WAS A KID GROWING UP in Nebraska, my Uncle Wes was a puzzle to me. He was married to my dad's sister, and was the holder of a college degree in agriculture, a sign that he'd had more education than most of the family. My puzzlement had to do with his personal style. Weston spent time with his boys, whereas my dad spent most of his time running his small business. Weston and Winnie (my aunt) took my grandmother out for lunch and an ice cream on Sundays, whereas we seldom visited her. Weston had a warmth, kindness, and gentleness about him that I ...

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