“She was there for me.”
“He made the time.”
“Her door was always open.”
“He invested in me.”
When I’ve asked people to describe someone who inspired them, one of the first comments is that the person was noticeably present. People who inspire us are both physically and mentally available to us. They focus on us. They give us the gift of their time, and just as important, the gift of their attention.
That attention affects us in a multitude of ways.
How we focus our attention reveals what we care about—whether or not we mean it to. On a basic human level, we crave positive attention from those who matter to us. We’re social animals. Isolation hurts us. It’s hard to overestimate the very human need to have others ...