Step One: the real you

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

Oscar Wilde

The opening questions

  • What job do you have?
  • What car do you drive?
  • How do you like to dress?
  • How do you like to communicate?

The answers to these questions represent objects that make up the desired impression you wish to create in the world, the cultivation of which begins as early as childhood. Most people strive to enact this persona to fulfil their public image and promote the version of themselves that they wish people to see. This process is normal, but if overdone it can be laborious.

The leaders who have lost their way

As professional consultants and facilitators, some of the clients we meet have adopted a particular image at work for many years and seek ...

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