CHAPTER 2What’s Holding You Back?

You’ve been holding back. Something has been in the way, because deep down you know there’s a leap you haven’t taken. Regardless of how much you try to ignore it or drown it out, the feeling that something is missing persists.

They say ignorance is bliss, and sometimes you wish you didn’t feel this longing for something greater. Then, it would be easier to digest the moments in life passing you by. It may be easier to not feel the impending regret. It would be easier to avoid what’s happening under the hood, and how much more time has passed.

I’m going to challenge you to identify where you’ve been playing small. This part of your story can be used as leverage in pursuit of your dreams. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken or defined by your past, no matter how challenging it may have been.

You’ve simply been held back. These forces at play are influential and keep you at bay, including:

  • When you have a powerful insight, they talk you out of it.
  • When you’re ready to make a big decision, they play private investigator and find the faults.
  • When you’re ready to lean into the edge of discomfort, they pull the reins back in.

In this chapter, we’re going to explore the forces that have been holding you back. We’ll explore why these forces are present and the consequences of giving in to them. But we’ll also explore how you can use them as leverage. You’re going to discover how to reframe your relationship with them in a way that ...

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