The Leap of Your Life

CHAPTER 15The Evolution of You

When I was 21 years old, my sister sent me a book. Not just any book—it was called The Way of The Superior Man, by David Deida. I looked at the cover, and the subtitle was A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. Uh, are you trying to tell me something here, sis? At that point in my life, I knew I wasn’t the master at creating powerful relationships. But still, I immediately labeled the book “not for me” and put it in a box and reminded myself to tell my sister thanks, but no thanks.

Two years later, I’d gained (some) maturity and opened the book again. I told myself I’d give it a chance and started reading. During those years, I’d put in a lot of energy toward growing myself. Upon re-opening the book, I remember glancing at the first chapter’s headline: There Is No Completion. It Will Never End.

WTH?! I felt depressed.

What do you mean it will never end? What do you mean I’ll never be able to rest? Isn’t the point of life to work hard, create powerful results—and then relish in those for the time we have left?

I know, I know. I was still immature and didn’t know what I didn’t know. But these were the questions spinning in my head as I spent the next decade plunging myself in the deepest and most intense experiences with one goal: transformation. Whether it was a spiritual quest in the Red Rocks of Sedona, or 35-mile physical crucibles, or hiring my mentor, Dr. John Demartini, I was all in.

Today, I wake ...