By now you’ve likely paused to think “how can I help?” when faced with a new connection or attending a new gathering. But the power and impact of these four simple words can go so much farther than that. By now, too, perhaps you’ve begun to see the power of building those constellations that I advocate. But when you become really skilled at asking “how can I help,” the magnitude of the constellations that you can build and the great work they can create in this world are truly awe-inspiring.

When I meet someone for the first time, my first question after asking their name and chatting about something as simple as the food or drink being served is: “What is challenging right now, anything you need help with?” In some instances, ...

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