The Matriarch Rules

Chapter 3The Four Big Lies

Now that I've presented you with some evidence of how capable you are and I've taught you about the power associated with making a decision, do you think you can stop lying? The lying is just out of control. All day long … lying to yourself and every other person in your life. I know this sounds harsh, but so is all of that lying. It's time to start saying what you actually mean, knock off the self-deception, and stop lying to your friends and family.

Can you stop saying, “I'll try” when you mean, I won't?

Can you stop saying, “I'm too busy” when you mean, I won't make time to?

Can you stop saying, “I can't” when you mean, I don't want to?

And for the love of all things pizza, can you stop saying “I had no choice” when you know damn well you did?

Look girl, I know you. I know who you are, and I know where you've been. I've been there too, and I said the same shit. But if we're gonna be friends, and I feel like we are at this point, then I've got to call you out on this. Whether the people in your life buy into your deceitful ways or not, they're clearly padding your corners and cushioning your falls. They are allowing you to live in these lies and accepting them as your truths. But where's that getting you?

I'll tell you. You disappoint others, which in turn, disappoints you, and it chips away at your self-esteem and self-worth, which you've already learned are essential to becoming a Matriarch. You cut off your opportunities and limit your choices, ...