Along with levels of experience, a second set of experiential distinctions is critical to the work of a coach: attachments and aversions, the directional urges within us that drive our interpretations and, ultimately, behaviors. When we pay close attention to the granular nature of our own experience, attachments and aversions turn out to be the very foundations of our unique personality. We can think of them as pairs of opposites that guide our actions and condition our behaviors and choices. One of each pair is something that we desire; we are attached to this. The other of the pair is something that we avoid; we have an aversion to that. Recognizing and letting go of our internal attachments and aversions is the ...

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