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T H E R U L E S O F L O V E
Men like flowers too
Everyone knows that women like to be given flowers. And
chocolate. They’re classic gifts to show a woman that you love
her, and it’s not really about the flowers or the chocolate lovely
though they may be it’s the gesture that’s important. It’s the fact
that her partner cared enough to think of bringing her some-
thing to show for it.
So what’s wrong with reversing the tradition? Why shouldn’t
men get to enjoy these thoughtful little gifts too? We also like
flowers and chocolate too.
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We like anything that shows us that
you were thinking of us and wanted to let us know you love us.
And lets not limit ourselves to flowers and chocolates. Giving
your partner a gift to show you love them is always a good thing
to do, even when it’s not a birthday or a special occasion. In fact
especially when it’s not an occasion. That’s what makes it so valu-
able, the fact that there was no need to do it. It’s a free bonus.
You dont need to spend money either. If you know what your
partner’s favourite wildflower is (You don’t? Why ever not? Go
and find out now), you can pick them the first one you see each
year. How lovely to be given the first snowdrop or bluebell or
foxglove of the year by someone who loves you.
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Or you might
do your partner a drawing, or bake them an unbirthday cake, or
leave a card on their pillow.
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Especially the chocolate pralines for me please.
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From your own garden obviously. I know you shouldn’t pick endangered wild
flowers, or dig up whole plants from the wild.
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You see, there are lots of things you can give your partner
because the important thing is to show that you were thinking of
them and to let them know that you love them enough to give
them a gift for no reason at all. The fact that you love them is
reason enough.
So when did you last give your partner a present? You’re not
allowed to count birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s day or your
wedding anniversary. What was the last gift you gave them with-
out an occasion for it? If it was in the last week, well done. I
hope they appreciate you. If it was in the last month youre
doing OK, but dont you love them enough to give them some-
thing a bit more often? Aim for once a week or so, although you
need a bit of variation. If it becomes nothing but habit, it loses
its value. No point always buying them tatty carnations from the
petrol station every week when you fill up the car. If it was more
than a month ago, you need to give them something today
hurry up, put the book down and go and sort it out now. If it
was more than three months ago, shame on you. Don’t read any
more Rules until you’ve acted on this one.
WHEN DID YOU LAST
GIVE YOUR PARTNER A
PRESENT?

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