Boy, is this a simple one to say and a really difficult one to live
up to. I do appreciate that it’s a tough one, but I know you can
do it. It takes a simple shift of vision, from being the sort of
person who acts in a certain way to being a different sort of
person who acts in a different sort of way. Look, no matter how
rough it gets you are never going to:
G
take revenge
G
act badly
G
be very, very angry
G
hurt anyone
G
act without thinking
G
act rashly
G
be aggressive.
That’s it, the bottom line. You are going to maintain the moral
high ground at all times. You are going to behave honestly,
decently, kindly, forgivingly, nicely (whatever that means), no
matter what the provocation. No matter what the challenge they
throw at you. No matter how unfairly they behave. No matter
how badly they behave. You will not retaliate in kind. You will
carry on being good and civilized and morally irreproachable.
Your manners will be impeccable. Your language moderated and
dignified. There is nothing they can say or do that will make you
deviate from this line.
RULE 71
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T H E R U L E S O F L O V E
Keep the moral high
ground
RULE 71
153
R U L E S F O R PA R T I N G
Yes, I know it’s difficult at times. I know when your ex is behav-
ing appallingly, and you have to carry on taking it on the chin
without giving in to your desire to floor them with a savage
word, it’s really, really tough. When someone is being horrid to
you it’s natural to want to get your own back and lash out. Don’t.
Once this rough time has passed, you will be so proud of your-
self for keeping the moral high ground, that it will taste a
thousand times better than revenge ever would.
I know revenge is tempting, but you won’t go there. Not now,
not ever. Why? Because if you do, you’ll be sinking to their level,
you’ll be at one with the beasts instead of the angels (see The
Rules of Life), because it demeans you and cheapens you, because
you will regret it and lastly because if you do, then youre no
Rules Player. Revenge is for losers. Taking and keeping the moral
high ground is the only way to be. It doesn’t mean you’re a
pushover or a wimp. It just means that any action you do take
will be honest and dignified and you’re a better person for it.
KEEPING THE MORAL HIGH
GROUND WILL TASTE
A THOUSAND TIMES
BETTER THAN REVENGE
EVER WOULD

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