RULE 13

Every recipe needs different ingredients

Rule 12 says you have to do a lot more than just love them. So what you gonna do? Well, there’s not just one simple answer to that, and some of it depends on your child’s personality and on your circumstances. That’s what this Rule is for.

You can’t just follow a set of instructions and apply it to every child you have without thinking. Children don’t work like that. I have friends who applied the same basic approach to bringing up their three children, and everything went smoothly. Then along came child number four, and he was completely different. He saw the world in a different way. He couldn’t accept authority, he had trouble understanding people. He was delightful but seriously quirky. For ...

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