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The Rules of Love, 2nd Edition by Richard Templar

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RULE 104

Guilt is a selfish emotion

Why is this a Rule of Love, you may be wondering. Well, I’ll tell you. Because if you’re busy feeling guilty, you’re in no position to extend love properly towards other people. Let me explain.

When we feel guilty, what is that feeling all about? Me, that’s what it’s about. Me, me, me. How do I feel, how terrible is my life, what is going on here for me? It’s entirely self-centred, and seeks to take the focus away from the object of your guilt – the loved one you have let down in some way, or like to think you have in order to steal their attention. No, we haven’t got time to worry about them, we’re too busy feeling sorry for ourselves about this dreadful burden of guilt we have to carry.

Well why not put ...

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