To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson
As we discussed in the last chapter, your brain sees other people's goals as suggestions for what your goals should be. Whether they're deliberate or not, these suggestions affect your expectations, which impacts your behavior. Put another way, other people can play a determining role in the path your life takes.
A report by Current Directions in Psychological Science shows that suggestions create response expectancies, or the ways in which we anticipate our responses in various situations.1
These expectancies set you up for automatic responses that actively influence ...