When you want to get good outcomes from challenging conversations
When you’re in an argument, have you ever noticed how the conversation can go round in circles?
|A:||You shouldn’t have done X.|
|B:||Well I did.|
|A:||Yes, but you shouldn’t.|
|B:||Yes, but I did. And you shouldn’t have done Y.|
|A:||Yes, but I did.|
What’s happening here is that you’re both trying to prove the other person’s more “wrong”. But, persuading someone they’re wrong is never a good way to win an argument. They’ll either defend themselves, or explain why you’re “more wrong”. No, proving they’re “wrong” won’t work. It’s more important to find a solution, than it is to be right.
The key to a successful outcome is to be able to see things from their point of view as well as your ...