Chapter 2. Winners can have what they want. Whiners want what they cannot have.

What do you want? Are you willing to pay the price to get it? Everything has a price, and while whiners want something for nothing, winners work hard in pursuit of their passions.

Sometimes hard work is part of the price we pay to get what we want. At other times, things come to us easily and without much effort, and the price we pay is humility, which is to "let go and let God." There have been times in my life when I have taken my hands off the metaphorical wheel and said, "This is beyond me right now. I don't know how to make this happen yet." Lo and behold, it seems to happen automatically. Winners know when to press on and when to let go. Whiners press on—until the first obstacle—but instead of trusting that the right outcome will happen, they let go. Winners let go and trust. Whiners let go and fear.

Whiners believe that other people should provide for them. They feel that because others have more, they are entitled to some of it. This entitlement mentality is extremely destructive and leads whiners to a state of self-pity, where they live in a constant quest for sympathy and focus all their energy on how hard life is and why they can't do this or that.

Winners, on the other hand, look at people who have more than they do and believe: "If others can do it, so can I." Then they learn what they need to do to get it.

Most wealthy people weren't handed their wealth—they earned it. Winners understand that ...

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