Chapter 37. In All Things, Moderation: You Get Back What You Put Out

You’ve probably heard the expression, “You make your own luck.” To a certain extent, that’s true. I’m not talking about some new-age idea of karma or fate. It’s simply that whatever you do, think, or say has an impact on others that directly determines how those others respond to you. The reaction you get to your words or behaviors usually is similar to what you put out. If you are polite and gracious, for example, you will almost always find that other people behave the same way back to you.

In the same way, strong words and emotions generate strong reactions. At a simple level, if you show strong negative emotions to someone—anger or despair—he or she is likely to respond in ...

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