CHAPTER 8 What Is Stopping You? F.E.A.R.: False Evidence Appearing Real!

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

—Marianne Williamson

The biggest roadblock every single one of us faces is our fear. Some degree of fear is natural and useful. We should be afraid of certain dangers or we will get hurt. But there is a fine line between useful fear and destructive fear.

We've already talked about fear many times, but we cannot stress strongly enough how vital it is to understand your fears and be able to distinguish between rational and irrational fears. The dividing line between the two is a little different for everyone, and most people easily could afford to push the line a little further out and confront some of the fears that they had assumed were rational but actually might be stuff that is holding them back, that could be challenged. Every time you confront and challenge a fear you drastically reduce its impact on you.

Fear is paralyzing. This is important if you are facing a great danger. If you suddenly find yourself at a cliff's edge facing a sheer drop that would undoubtedly kill you, it is important that you freeze. But it is not productive if the fear is not based on something real. If the fear is based on a projection you made of the future, ...

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