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SET YOUR GOALS

So far we’ve used the FIRE Model to separate the Facts from the Interpretations, Reactions, and desired Ends (IRE). This helps us to have calm and cool conversations that are free of negative emotions. We’ve also considered the Truth-Killers that can get in the way of our words being heard. And we’ve learned how perspective-taking, unemotionally seeing the issues as if through another person’s eyes, can help us shape a successful Truth Talk. There’s just one more step of preparation before the actual conversation begins, and it’s setting a goal for your Truth Talk.

Without a proper goal, it’s just too easy to stray from the purpose of a Truth Talk. Sticking to the facts using the FIRE Model prevents us from slipping into the ...

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