An early reader reflected that following the process as outlined in this book could be time intensive. That's true. The kind of conflict we're talking about is seldom resolved quickly, especially if it evolved over time. The unraveling also deserves time and attention.

She also asked me how readers would know when to engage in a full-fledged version of the process, when they might apply a “lite” version, and what “lite” might look like.

The idea of a “lite” model made me smile, and I think she was spot on in asking the question. However, there are certain parameters. For example, if the conflict is entrenched, then I say dig in and take the time necessary to fully explore and sort it through.

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