CHAPTER 3

From “What Were You Thinking?” to “Who Were You Being?”

  • What lies beneath
  • Good wolves, bad wolves, and their cousins
  • Symptoms, sources, and solutions
  • Pro forma thinking

Untenable situations can have an ontological dimension. Who we are being has enormous influence and can create untenable situations and allow them to continue. Who we are being in a given situation can be both the source and solution to our problems.

What Lies Beneath

Even coaches get coached. Once I was complaining to a mentor coach about some situation of mine that had gone south. His question caught me off guard: Who were you being that allowed that to happen?

While we can explain or rationalize things from here to eternity, the genesis of thinking comes ...

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