CHAPTER 7

Shame and Regret

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Shame and Embarrassment

Shame and embarrassment are feelings that are often experienced when there is either a real or a perceived public incident of some social gaffe. Both shame and embarrassment are provoked by unhealthy beliefs where you link your sense of worth to other people’s negative judgement.

You find yourself agreeing with the way you think other people will judge you for the social gaffe or faux pas. The unhealthy belief is often as follows:

‘Others must not disapprove of me for (whatever negative thing has been revealed about me), because if they do and then judge me as weak, inept, incompetent, a failure, ...

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