Your Response Options

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.


What most of us who were targets of bullying have in common is that we didn’t know what was happening to us, so we didn’t know how to talk about it, much less how to combat it. We didn’t recognize what was happening to us as bullying behavior.

When you don’t know how to put language to something, it’s tough to determine what to do about it. In the absence of language, workplace bullying often doesn’t get called out for what it is and therefore remains “the undiscussable.”

Not knowing how to describe what is happening to us—and fearing punishment even if we are able to talk about it—often leads us to hide. We play small. Some of us sleep, eat, ...

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