Changing our mindset is clearly not enough. After all, it’s easy to make bland statements full of intent about our desire for growth. Sustaining it through years of setbacks and frustrations (that reinforce our negative or fixed beliefs) is a far more difficult task. Removing a lifetime of poor confidence – as well as its impact on our self-esteem (and vice versa) – is a major undertaking, I’m afraid, and one that no single book can deliver. Indeed, telling the embattled under-confident person to change their mindset can sound little better than the ‘get over it’ admonishments of the super-confident.
One issue is our reactions to such statements, or, indeed, to other moments when we feel challenged. The world of the under-confident ...