Executing our plans means developing confidence: not in private or on paper, but with real people in real situations. Yet this can trigger shyness for the under-confident – a beguiling trait in children but a disabling one for adults. At the very moments we need to speak, our shyness renders us speechless. Just as we need to move, our shyness roots us to the spot. And when the requirement is for us to act, our shyness tells us to hesitate.
Again, controversy rages regarding the roots of shyness - whether it’s innate or something we develop, perhaps via negative early experiences. That said, it could equally be a mixture of the two – maybe with one reinforcing the other.
Certainly, I’ve always seen my own shyness as incident-related. ...