CHAPTER THREE

reining in themommy guilt

One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words—it is expressed in the choices one makes . . . and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.

—Eleanor Roosevelt

LET’S GET ONE thing straight right away: If you choose to have a family, the notion that this is an “all or nothing” career decision is ludicrous at best, sinister at worst. That said, it does require sacrifices. There will be times when you have to leave work to deal with your kids and times when you have to leave kids to deal with your work. There is guilt in both, but you will save yourself a lot of heartache if you decide—up front—that “having it all” doesn’t mean being it all. As discussed in the last chapter, if your every ...

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