11The Art of the Redirect:Managing Destabilizing Moves

Recognizing a move for what it is—a tactic that is intended to diminish you and shift power to the other side—allows you to respond deliberately and strategically with a redirect.

This chapter will empower you against diminishing moves—the ones that make you doubt yourself, or that cause others to doubt you, your abilities, or your expertise. The following are the negative moves opponents of both sexes commonly make on women:

  Challenging your competence or expertise. Your experience or expertise is questioned. Your opinion, position, or service is devalued, for example: “Your fees are way out of line with what you deliver.”

  Demeaning your ideas. Your ideas are attacked in ways that ...

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