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Your Toolkit for Reading Body Language

This chapter is your quick and handy reference guide to my five-step body language and deception-detecting program. Practice it and use it!

You Are Not a Mind Reader

Prepare yourself for success, and don’t fall victim to the myths about body language.

• Remember to use my rule of three for detecting deceptive tells: baseline, look for clusters, and be aware of context.

• Overcome inattentional blindness. We don’t see what we don’t expect to see; so before you begin to read body language, whether is it to build rapport, mirror personality traits, or detect deception, you must rid yourself of all biases, prejudices, or assumptions. If you assume anything, you will unconsciously turn your assumptions into ...

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