Conflict arises when two parties become entrenched in their own ideologies. In this section, I explore some practical NLP approaches that offer ways to shift through conflict with greater ease.
The famous British military commander Field Marshal ‘Monty’ Montgomery kept a picture of his German opponent Rommel, The Desert Fox, on the wall of his desert campaign headquarters during the Second World War. In planning the strategy for war, he wanted to focus on his enemy in order to analyse tactics in battle through his opponent's eyes.
When negotiating through conflict, the NLP concept of perceptual positions can provide insight into opposing viewpoints and help you separate from your emotions in order to achieve an independent perspective. The three most useful NLP positions are as follows:
Turn to Chapter 12 for more on perceptual positions.
Team conflicts – and solutions
Teams and other groups ...