Collaborating with the Enemy

Table of contents

1. Cover
2. Title Page
3. Copyright Page
4. Dedication
5. Contents
6. Foreword
7. Preface
8. Introduction: How to Work with People You Don’t Agree with or Like or Trust
9. 1: Collaboration Is Becoming More Necessary and More Difficult
   1. “I could never work with those people!”
   2. The enemyfying syndrome
   3. The central challenge of collaboration
10. 2: Collaboration Is Not the Only Option
    1. The way forward is unclear
    2. “The miraculous option is that we work things through together”
    3. There are three alternatives to collaboration
    4. Collaboration must be a choice
11. 3: Conventional, Constricted Collaboration Is Becoming Obsolete
    1. Constriction prevents movement
    2. Change management assumes control
    3. “There is only one right answer”
    4. The limitations of conventional collaboration
12. 4: Unconventional, Stretch Collaboration Is Becoming Essential
    1. Stretching creates flexibility and discomfort
    2. How to end a civil war
    3. Stretch collaboration abandons the illusion of control
13. 5: The First Stretch Is to Embrace Conflict and Connection
    1. Dialogue is not enough
    2. There is more than one whole
    3. Every holon has two drives
    4. Alternate power and love
14. 6: The Second Stretch Is to Experiment a Way Forward
    1. We cannot control the future, but we can influence it
    2. We are crossing the river by feeling for stones
    3. Creativity requires negative capability
    4. Listen for possibility rather than for certainty
15. 7: The Third Stretch Is to Step into the Game
    1. “They need to change!”
    2. If you’re not part of the problem, you can’t be part of the solution
    3. Be a pig rather than a chicken
16. Conclusion: How to Learn to Stretch
17. Notes
18. Acknowledgements
19. Index
20. About the Author
21. About Reos Partners
22. A Note from the Artist, Jeff Barnum