Financial Adulting

CHAPTER 1What Is a Financial Adult?

When I graduated college and started working in my first (and my second) job, I was far from being what I would consider a financial adult. One might expect that we would start acting like financial adults as soon as we get our first paycheck or move out on our own, but for most of us, it doesn't come until later (sometimes much, much later).

What I've noticed from my own experience, and hearing from thousands of others about their money lives, is that there is usually some type of impetus for becoming a financial adult. Something happens that causes us to care about our finances. It might be wanting to switch careers, getting into a new exciting relationship, or watching a close family member suffer through a traumatic financial experience, but something happens that inspires us to take action.

Now, it's important to acknowledge that the opportunity to not be a financial adult comes with tremendous privilege. Many people, much younger than legal adult age, have had to become financial adults due to stressful economic circumstances, systemic inequities, and poverty. In those cases, waiting for inspiration to become a financial adult was not an option. We talk more about this later.

Why Aren't We Financial Adulting?

When I give talks, I often poll the room of people and say, “Raise your hand if you think you should know more about money and personal finance.” It doesn't matter who is in the crowd, almost every hand goes up – every time. ...