9 PRINCIPLE 5 Becoming Open


Show Up.

Pay Attention.

Tell Your Truth.

Don’t Be Attached to the Outcome.

Angelis Arrien, PhD, The Four Fold Way13

Under the accepted paradigm, people in conflict posture. They play games. They horse around. The focus is more about being right than being effective. Winning has become the highest value. No one gets points for candor!

Many of our role models come from television. Dallas, L.A. Law, Perry Mason, Boston Legal, Ali McBeal, Eli Stone, Shark, Law & Order, and the O.J. Simpson trials are examples. The bravado we see, and often follow, seems cool as a sound bite, but it doesn’t get us the results we want. Saying ...

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