For some people everything is a contest. They always try to be first, get to the top, or be number one. They compete to have whatever the latest thing is. At work they constantly push for progress, and operate like warriors engaged in battle against the enemy.

Make no mistake. There’s nothing wrong with trying to be the best, win, or be number one. In fact, the will to win is an important source of motivation. It provides drive and determination. But to win in life, it pays to remember that ‘b’ word again: balance.

You see, if winning is the only reason you take part in an activity then you’re looking for trouble. When your life is all about one thing, that one thing can break you. So take a step back. Look at the bigger picture. ...

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