To gain a perspective on helping, let us listen in on a session between a helper and an adolescent helpee who is plagued by physical illnesses:

Helpee: Things are so bad.
Helper: You’re really desperate.
Helpee: I’m afraid I may do something bad to myself.
Helper: You’re scared because you’re at the end of your rope.
Helpee: I’ve lost all my friends.
Helper: You’re lost and alone.
Helpee: I’m failing at everything that I’m doing.
Helper: You’re losing control of everything.
Helpee: Now everyone sees me only in terms of my illnesses.
Helper: You’re furious because they don’t treat you as a whole person.
Helpee: I admit that I haven’t managed my own illness.
Helper: You’re disappointed because ...

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