Book description
The age-old question for every leader—how do we bring out the best in those we lead? Anyone who has run a company, raised a family, lead an army, or coached a team struggles to find the key to help others excel and realize their potential. It is surprising how often we resort to criticism vs. an approach that actually results in a better worker and a better person.
What if we could speak Words of Life that transform those under our influence and ignite fires of intrinsic motivation? What if those we lead found great purpose in what they do and worked at their jobs with all their heart? Isn’t that what leaders, parents and teachers really want? Ultimately, don’t we hope to foster intrinsic motivation so that the individuals we lead become better employees, better students or better athletes? Recent discoveries of brain science and the wisdom of top CEO’s that Dr. Tim Irwin interviewed for this book give us the answers we’ve long sought.
In most organizations, the methods used to provide feedback to employees such as performance appraisal or multi-rater feedback systems, in fact, accomplish the exact opposite of what we intend. We inadvertently speak Words of Death. Brain science tells us that these methods tend to engage a natural “negativity bias” that is hardwired in us all.
Science in recent years discovered that affirmation sets in motion huge positive changes in the brain. It releases certain neuro chemicals associated with well-being and higher performance. Amazingly, criticism creates just the opposite neural reaction. The most primitive part of the brain goes into hyper defense mode, compromising our performance, torpedoing our motivation and limiting access to our higher-order strengths.
How do we redirect employees who are out-of-line without engaging our natural “negativity bias?” Leaders must forever ban the term, “Constructive Criticism.” Brain science tells us that we can establish a connection between the employee’s work and his or her aspirations. This book calls for a new approach to align workers with an organization’s mission, strategy and goals, called Alliance Feedback.Table of contents
- Cover
- Title Page
- Foreword
- Part I: The Science of Extraordinary Influence
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Part II: How Extraordinary Influence Works
- 3 Tactical Affirmation
- 4 Strategic Influence
- 5 Words of Death
- 6 Alliance Feedback
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7 Extraordinary Influence for Underperformers
- True Story 1
- True Story 2
- True Story 3
- The Three Stories Called for Three Different Remedies
- How Do We Make These Judgments That Have Such a Huge Impact on People's Lives?
- To Whom Should We Direct Our Limited Developmental Resources?
- How Much Compassion?
- Resistance to Dealing with a Problem Person
- The Him or Me Card
- The Virtue of Redemption
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Part III: Special Applications of Extraordinary Influence
- 8 Extraordinary Influence for Teams
- 9 Motivating High Potentials
- 10 Performance Appraisals that Lead to Extraordinary Influence
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11 Special Counsel to Parents, Teachers, and Coaches
- Courage to Fight for Our Children's Well-Being
- Words of Life—The Fuel to Reach a High Orbit
- The Tragedy of Words of Death
- College Football: An Amazing Laboratory Experiment
- Alliance Feedback for Children
- The I, We, and It for Families
- The Conundrum of Hardship and Adversity
- Final Counsel to Parents, Teachers, and Coaches
- Notes
- 12 What Would Happen If We Put This into Practice?
- Acknowledgments
- About the Author
- Index
- End User License Agreement
Product information
- Title: Extraordinary Influence
- Author(s):
- Release date: March 2018
- Publisher(s): Wiley
- ISBN: 9781119464426
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