Self as Coach, Self as Leader

INDEX

Page numbers followed by f and t refer to figures and tables, respectively.

A

• Access to feelings, 88–90
• Action, pathway from emotion to, 88, 88f
• Action-oriented stance, 27t
• Adult development stages, 7, 20–29
  • in coaching engagements, 24
  • described, 20–23
  • home base and, 29
  • matching coach's and leader's, 24
  • self-authoring stage, 23
  • and self-object dynamic in coaching, 24–28
  • self-transforming stage, 23
• Agile boundaries, 108t
• Ainsworth, Mary, 17, 19, 20, 28
• Alcoholic Anonymous, 102
• Alexithymia, 89
• Alliance, working, 40–41, 66, 90
• Ancestry, 128
• Anger, 92
• Argyris, Chris, 160, 168
• The Art of Empathy (McLaren), 65
• Assumptions, 50–51, 53
• Attachment theory:
  • and adult development stages, 21
  • described, 16–19
  • and empathy, 66, 68
  • impact of attachment on coach, 33
  • scripts/stories and, 7
• Attention, 25, 45, 52
• Awareness:
  • self-, 41, 170–172, 174–175
  • somatic, 123
  • of third entity, 57–59

B

• Baker, Doug, 172
• Balanced empathic response, 72–73
• Barrett, Lisa Feldman, 92
• Batson, C. Daniel, 65
• Behavioral patterns:
  • of leaders, 173–174
  • self-object perspective on, 26t–27t
  • stories as determinants of, 6
• Belly breaths, 45
• Biases, 50–51
• Blame, 110
• Block, Peter, 113
• Boundaries:
  • agile, 108t
  • in coaching, 147
  • continuum for, 102f
  • and courage, 140
  • diffuse, 108t
  • and empathy, 74
  • and family systems therapy, 104
  • identifying/locating, 108t, 112
  • limited, 102–103
  • necessity of, 102–103
  • in overworked and out of control vignette, 114–119
  • porous, 102–103
  • rigid, 103, 108t
  • in systems thinking, 109
  • and urge ...