INDEX

Page numbers followed by f and t refer to figures and tables, respectively.

A

  • Access to feelings, 88–90
  • Action, pathway from emotion to, 88, 88f
  • Action-oriented stance, 27t
  • Adult development stages, 7, 20–29
    • in coaching engagements, 24
    • described, 20–23
    • home base and, 29
    • matching coach's and leader's, 24
    • self-authoring stage, 23
    • and self-object dynamic in coaching, 24–28
    • self-transforming stage, 23
  • Agile boundaries, 108t
  • Ainsworth, Mary, 17, 19, 20, 28
  • Alcoholic Anonymous, 102
  • Alexithymia, 89
  • Alliance, working, 40–41, 66, 90
  • Ancestry, 128
  • Anger, 92
  • Argyris, Chris, 160, 168
  • The Art of Empathy (McLaren), 65
  • Assumptions, 50–51, 53
  • Attachment theory:
    • and adult development stages, 21
    • described, 16–19
    • and empathy, 66, 68
    • impact of attachment on coach, 33
    • scripts/stories and, 7
  • Attention, 25, 45, 52
  • Awareness:
    • self-, 41, 170–172, 174–175
    • somatic, 123
    • of third entity, 57–59

B

  • Baker, Doug, 172
  • Balanced empathic response, 72–73
  • Barrett, Lisa Feldman, 92
  • Batson, C. Daniel, 65
  • Behavioral patterns:
    • of leaders, 173–174
    • self-object perspective on, 26t–27t
    • stories as determinants of, 6
  • Belly breaths, 45
  • Biases, 50–51
  • Blame, 110
  • Block, Peter, 113
  • Boundaries:
    • agile, 108t
    • in coaching, 147
    • continuum for, 102f
    • and courage, 140
    • diffuse, 108t
    • and empathy, 74
    • and family systems therapy, 104
    • identifying/locating, 108t, 112
    • limited, 102–103
    • necessity of, 102–103
    • in overworked and out of control vignette, 114–119
    • porous, 102–103
    • rigid, 103, 108t
    • in systems thinking, 109
    • and urge ...

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